There are different ways to handle our feelings.
Resist.
Judge.
Indulge.
And Ignore them.
OR we can FEEL them, so called “process them”.
At the root they are all energies “e-motion” = energy in motion.
Most of us didn’t learn the skill of processing feelings. It’s more common for us to avoid them altogether with blaming and complaining, or eating, drinking, overworking, overthinking, exercise, or shopping.
For the best quality of life, ideally we learn how to process our emotions.
But how exactly?
Experts say “allow them”. Allow them into your attention with keen awareness on your breath and in your body throughout the day.
With your attention on the sensations in your body, you can notice and ideally witness them without reacting.
The sensations can include contracting of muscles, a tightness in your jaw, flutter in your belly, clenching of teeth, furrowing of the brow, a spread of lightness or flutter across your chest.
It takes practice, to pay attention to what is happening in the body. This is how we increase our emotional connection.
Then we can open up to the feelings as they arise.
We don’t even need to label them.
If it’s all energy, we can identify and feel the energy as it moves through us.
We observe and allow.
They can move through, come in and then leave, like a tropical storm.
Sensations in your body.
This is a skill that we can practice.